Sometimes the its not the Numbers its the Question.

Today my friend Carol and I were talking about the numbers of births outside of marriage and the high black numbers. People read those numbers and think our babies are all born to single parent households. That is not true. The majority of homes are actually One Man one woman and children. They are not married but they have been in a long term relationship of 10 or more years. The children in this sort of family are in two family homes. They should not be included in data relating to single parent homes. So why are they included? The person asking the questions for the data asked just one question "Are you married?" They did not follow up with "Are you living with the child's father?" This failure to address this question in my eyes adds more to the numbers. I'm calling this as I see it racist. Not only does this remove numbers from the black folks but also White, Hispanic, Asian, and mixed Race groups as well.

 Just like it's a lie when they assume that most of these children have no fathers. Again no one asks the women "are you still with your child's father? If the answer is yes than its the same as the above senero. If the answer is NO the follow-up question should be " is the father present in the Child's life? Most of the time the answer is yes. They should also be removed from this list because you can't be a single parent if the parent is involved.

My son and grandson

Marriage is a Religious ceromony. Not everyone believes in God and so the only question they ask should be removed.  There are a lot of reasons why people do not marry. The number 1 reason is that marriage is new in the hood has declined since the 70s, so we are talking two or three generations back.  Marriage is no longer a point of reference. This is changing and will continue to rise.

These numbers are used against the hood by everyone from Conservatives to justify blaming the Liberals for all the problems in the hood. It's also used to justify hate. The White Nationalists use it to prove that blacks lack the moral fiber of whites. They ignore the fact that the numbers of poor whites are on par with blacks and Hispanics for the same reasons the parents are not married. Whites have larger numbers and are grouped together when you remove middle and Upper class whites you have higher numbers. It's the same for black folks remove the upper and middle class black people and the numbers go down a lot. So what in fact is a poor issue has become a race issue.

This being said, Hood our numbers are still to high. We as a Community need to come to grips with this issue. Young men and women need to start getting married if they love each other.

Sometimes you just need to ask follow up questions if not than you are serving a Racist system.

How the hood deals with murder and what America can learn from us during a mass shooting.

Last Sunday was the Mass shooting in Las Vegas.  My 7 year old granddaughter asked me why the people didn't drop to the ground instead of running.  I explained that there were to many people there for people to drop because other people could step on them while they were trying to escape.   She knew that they should have gotten as low to the ground as they could get in order to survive.  She then wanted to know why they didn't seem to know this.  I had to tell her that most of the people who were there do not live in violence prone neighborhoods.  Aleara pondered that for a little while then asked. "Why not?" she looked at me puzzled. I explained to her that middle class people do not have shootings every day or most days.  She then looked at me and asked why it was like that in the hood.
"I can't go play with my friends in the back now because they were shooting there." I knew it was only a matter of time before Aleara started asking me the same thing my kids asked me back in the early days of the new Century and actually as far back as the early 90s.

Aleara knows what to do when shots are fired because she has to remember that.  She knows that if she forgets that she may die.  We do not need drills because our reality is that we have a lot of shots fired between the first and last warm days. A period of time I call the Killing Season. Little kids learn what to do when they are 3 and 4 because they go out without their parents to the back yard. 


Aleara is right people in Vegas should have ducked down but since he was so high up in the air I doubt it would have changed things in the least.  When shots are fired and its not a massive crowd then you should hit the ground and if necessary then play dead so that if he does come by you he doesn't shoot you again.  You should also listen for sounds but do not open you eyes until you see someone that you can trust.

My granddaughter wanted to know why someone wanted to just kill all those people and why did he do that?  She stuck to the known problems that will get you killed in the hood.  Drugs and gangs I told her no one knows why he shot those people. She got a little sad because she is her mother's child and is very tender hearted. 


I also want to know why people shoot people?  I want to know why our children have to know what to do to survive a shooting but with all the knuckle heads who cant deal with life wants to take as many people out with them as possible.

Trump's America and Its Impact on the Hood

I read on my facebook wall and also on the Streets of my Hood the question on everyone's mind what do Minorities think of Make America Great Again?.  Perhaps had it remained a campaign slogan then we could chalk it off as racist rhetoric that the GOP love to use.  This time the Hood got a reality check Muslim Bans,  Rounding up Mexicans ripping babies out of the arms of mothers.  Then just so the Hood don't feel left up TWO executive  orders which is genocidal was hit.  The Hood can't be deported or banned we are Americans.  So what they do they first give police officers a licence to kill with no regard to the people they murder.  This racist Baboon literally gave the Cops free reign to shoot and kill at will.  Who do you think is going to be slaughtered?  
The Second one is just as horrific. The Justice Department plans another Mass Incarceration even though the last ones we're a disaster this is what the KKK Attorney General thinks is a good idea.  This one should upset the very people who put him in there the Rural Poor Whites although they are also likely to be murdered by the police or end up serving Life for a low level felony.  They will suffer along side of the rest of us only the rest of us didn't want Trump.
We hear stories of people boldly proclaiming that soon under Trump slave labor will be back.  A few years ago this would be laughed at but no one is laughing now.  We are afraid that we will be forced into slavery.  Not even under Reagan we did not fear this but under Trump we have no choice but to believe him.  We will defend ourselves from any threat and yes you bold enough to come to the ghetto to force us into slavery we will kill you.
We will not sing and pray for peace once cops kill someone we will burn this Country down.  We are not going to rule over and play dead.  A judge over sentences someone then then we burn the Suburbs down completely.  We will not allow our rights and Freedoms to be taken away.  We will fight.  See the days of Peaceful Protest is over it's time to Defend ourselves  by any means necessary.
So to most minorities we believe the slogan means We will make Amerikkka Great Again means back to our Nations long Painful treatment of the poor and Minorities will be permitted.  The Biggest joke of it all is that Poor White Rural whites will be sentenced to the same time behind bars or will be killed by the as police. 
Some of my white middle class friends some of whom are Republican do not understand our fear and unfortunately some White Liberals are feeding this by reporting fake news stories or even Satire Sites which is designed to frighten us into voting for Democrats. 
My Republican friends voted against Hillary more than for Trump and they  will be horrified if the EOs are enforced.  They try to console me but I am still afraid.  I lived through Mass Incarceration  before and with flooding our communities with drugs and weapons.  We we're caught off guard then but now we know the deal. We don't trust Trump's America or Trump himself because he is doing what he said he would do. 
We Resist him despite his efforts to reach out to us we do so because he doesn't listen nor does he tell his Neo Nazi/KKK followers to behave.
God Help us all.